Tips To The Groom: Writing Your Wedding Speech tips to the groom writing your wedding speech

Your groom speech could be one of the most exciting, funny and beautiful moments of your wedding day. Here’s why you need help writing it: The days of the groom simply showing up on the wedding day and saying his name are long gone. 

Nowadays couples plan their wedding together – you’re a team. Between searching for your wedding venue, planning and booking, one of your treats as the groom is giving a speech. Freaking out? Don’t be, you’re going to nail it! Read our carefully selected groom wedding speech writing tips and give one killer speech: groom giving speech bride holding his hand
By Ali Paul


Preparing your speech:

1) Talk to the veterans: If you’re not sure where to start with your groom wedding speech, this article will definitely help. However, there’s nothing better than talking to grooms who have done it already! Reach out to your friends and get their advice, ask them what they regretted doing, and what they wish they could’ve said! If you recently got engaged and still have a few weddings to attend before your own, pay close attention to the speeches – it’s research time.

2) Practice, but not too much! You want your groom speech to go well, but you don’t want it to be perfect – you’re not running for office! You should practice your speech in front of the mirror, and maybe in front of a friend, but don’t rehearse it too much. The moment will be filled with passion and laughter, leave space for those and for candid moments!

3) Enjoy the moment: The best advice we can give you on your speech, is to relax and have fun while you are doing it! Remember, wedding planning is over, you’re ticked all the items from your checklist, you are now married to the love of your life, all of your nearest and dearest are in one place, drinking and dancing and celebrating YOU! Bask in the glory and enjoy this moment, you’re a rock star! groom skipping and bride clapping

Writing the speech:

4) Thank your father in law: Traditionally you are the second speech of the evening, following the Father of the Bride. Maybe start your speech by thanking him for his kind words and of course, for letting you marry his daughter! If the father of the bride is still stuck on writing his speech, check out our top tips for him!

5) Thank your guests: You’re in a room filled with your nearest and dearest. How about thanking them for attending, for their presents and for their support. It is also customary at this point, to mention those that couldn’t make it and read any notes, messages or funny quips from them. Remember, if your bride isn’t giving a speech, you are speaking for the both of you – as a married couple!

6) Remember those who passed away: You may decide to mention those that have passed away. This is a very sensitive topic – so think about whether this is something that is important to you. We recommend you check with your bride, as she may want to include this in her speech. Does your bride also need a hand with her speech? Check out our tips to the bride: writing your wedding speech!

7) Give your families some love: Thank them both for bringing you up to be the people that you are and for always being there. If the bride’s family is hosting, then make sure you say a big thank you to everyone for that.

Also, thank them for welcoming you into their family – any funny stories about asking your father-in-law for permission to marry his daughter, or meeting them for the first time would go down well here. This is also a great opportunity to give bouquets to the mothers or presents to the families for all their help.

8) Thank your Best Man and Ushers: Next up are your Best Man and ushers for helping (and constantly celebrating with) you along the way to your wedding day. You might want to jump in and mock yourself here before the Best Man does – as he will be speaking next, this is a good time to introduce him. If your best man is a social hand grenade, send him some speech giving tips we put together here.

9) Talk about your LOVE: Here comes the most heartfelt part of your speech, speaking about your wonderful new wife – and when you get to say WIFE for the first time! Compliment her on her beauty, comment on what she has brought to your life and how happy you are to start your family life together.

Don’t feel that you have to be overly sentimental, just be genuine and sincere. As important as all the thanks are, this is the crucial part of your speech, make your new wife feel loved and appreciated! And obviously saying how beautiful she looks (or always looks!) will go down well.

10) Thank the bridal party: Lastly, you should thank the bridesmaids for supporting the bride and helping her before and throughout the day. This is what the groom traditionally ends his speech on. As a finale, you compliment them and pronounce a toast “To the Bridesmaids!” Then, sit back down and prepare yourself for the Best Man speech… (drumroll please). 

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Happy Speech-ing!


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