Mother of the Bride Outfits: The Complete Guide for Every Age, Size & Budget
It’s the most talked-about dress of the day after the bride’s, so it’s no wonder that finding the perfect mother of the bride outfit can be stressful.
Long gone are the days when mother of the bride outfits verged on feeling frumpy and dated. Now, they shine in their own way, with contemporary cuts and flattering fits, so long as they respect and adhere to any wedding dress codes set by the couple.
But if the breadth of choice is getting the better of you, or indeed, you know what you’d like to wear but you’re not sure it’s MOB-appropriate, we’ve got you with our handy guide below.
Bridebook, the UK’s #1 wedding planning platform used by over 2.8 million couples, is here to answer all your questions and include excellent shopping suggestions, as well as plus size and petite mother of the bride outfits to peruse.
Disclaimer: Prices, styles and stock availability for the outfits, brands and retailers mentioned are correct at the time of publication and may change. Always check current pricing and availability directly with the retailer before buying.
What Should the Mother of the Bride Wear?
Mother of the bride outfits in the UK would traditionally give off a kind of Queen Mother vibe: knee-length skirt suits and a matching hat. Now, there’s a plethora of designs that will cut the brief; from trouser suits, cool co-ords and jumpsuits, to feminine wrap dresses and shifts, and floaty midi and maxi dresses.
We especially love the 1990s MOB trend that’s resurfaced in recent years: the co-ordinating duster coat set that comprises the long lightweight jacket along with either a top and trousers or a simple slip dress, all in the same shade, print, and fabric.
But, of course, not all the options we’ve listed above will work with every wedding. These are the things to consider before you pick your final look:
- Formality of the venue. Are we talking a classic stately home setting? In which case, an elegant knee-length cocktail dress, slim heels and a fabulous fascinator are perfect. A barefoot beach wedding where the bride will be wearing loose waves and a simple dress? Keep your look relaxed, too – consider a lightweight dress in a vibrant colour, such as turquoise, and team it with muted metallics to add some shimmer.
- Season. If you’re attending a winter wedding, floaty chiffon and pastel tailoring will be out, but velvet and jacquard fabrics are acceptable, and vice versa.
- Dress code cues. When the dress code is traditional (for instance, morning dress), you may be expected to wear a hat or fascinator. If the dress code says smart, a boho maxi dress is not appropriate, and if the dress code is smart-casual, structured tailoring will feel too stiff.
- General mother of the bride dress etiquette. Always ask the couple whether they want you to coordinate with their colour theme or not. And the same goes for the rest of the wedding party – check if your MOB look clashes or complements.
It goes without saying that the goal here is to not upstage the couple, but that doesn’t mean you have to blend into the background.
Tap into tradition with pastel palettes, smart skirt suiting, duster coats, and standout headgear, or keep it modern in sharp mother of the bride trouser suits, co-ords, or a tailored blazer over a simple dress (think a tuxedo-inspired jacket with a youthful slip dress).
What are the Best Mother of the Bride Outfits by Age?
Of course, we’d tell you a thousand times over that there’s no need to adhere to outdated rules or strict age limits around clothing and that the most important thing is you feel comfortable in your own skin.
However, it’s understandable that many mothers of the bride – young and older –want to feel like they look ‘age-appropriate’ and not dated in what they wear. Here are our biggest tips to ensure a flattering ensemble to use as a starting point:
- Mother of the bride outfits for over 50s: It doesn’t matter how confident you feel in skin-baring numbers day-to-day or how great your legs are; our skirt length of choice would always be below the knee for every age. Steer away from the more traditional twin sets if they’re not your style, as they can make you look older and – for a lot of women in their 50s – less like yourself. Instead, consider floatier skirts or dresses, and don’t rule out trousers. A pair of beautiful palazzo pants with a wrap blouse or jacket can also be worn as separates after the day.
- Mother of the bride outfits for over 60s and 70s: Much like fashion for mothers of the bride in their 50s, there are no hard and fast rules for mothers in their 60s and 70s, but you might want to prioritise comfort and ease of movement a little more. Don’t be afraid to try on lots of samples and styles until you find the look that works for you. The best part? You know yourself at this age, so you’ll be more steadfast in your choices.
What are the Best Mother of the Bride Outfits for Plus Size & Petite Figures?
Plus size and petite outfits for mothers of the bride and groom are improving, but there are still brands out there that aren’t as size-inclusive as they could be.
Women should never feel restricted by what they can wear, no matter their body shape or size, but if you want the most flattering options, consider your frame, the cuts that you know already suit you best, and the styles you feel most comfortable and confident in.
- For big hips: Draw attention to the smallest part of your waist. This creates the illusion of an hourglass figure and is easily done with wrap dresses, A-line silhouettes, anything with internal corseting, and nipped-in tailoring.
- For apple-shaped figures: You may want something that skims the stomach area and highlights your legs. A suit with an oversized blazer and cigarette pants will flatter, as will a shorter shift dress (cross-check with the dress code to ensure this is appropriate).
- For petite frames: The key is to balance your proportions, so your frame isn’t overwhelmed. Floaty maxis can work but temper the length with platform heels so it doesn’t swamp your figure. Knee-length and midi dresses offer a balanced look, especially in tailored fabrics. For an outfit that lengthens the legs consider an empire waistline that sits just below the bust. This gives a more elongated, statuesque silhouette.
- Where to shop: Phase Eight, Simply Be, John Lewis, ASOS Arrange, Ralph Lauren and Marina Rinaldi have a great selection of inclusive size ranges and dedicated petite collections.
What Should the Mother of the Bride Wear for a Summer or Winter Wedding?
Syncing your wedding-day style with the seasons couldn’t be simpler…
- Summer mother of the bride outfits: Much like your daughter’s wedding dress and/or the groom’s suit, breathable fabrics are key for the rather unpredictable great British summer; consider raw silk and chiffon for a look that’s cool but still feels polished. If you’re looking at high summer, even the lightest of wool-crepe suits could get a little hot in the afternoon, so make sure you feel comfortable in the top beneath so you can remove your jacket. When it comes to styles, shift dresses, lightweight tailored jackets, floaty wrap dresses and flowing palazzo pants in garden-party floral prints and pastels all work well.
- Winter mother of the bride outfits: The colder months call for richer fabrics and textures; velvet, jacquard, and heavy silk-satin in deep jewel tones like emerald, navy, plum and burgundy all match the season perfectly. Pleats and plisse fabrics can also add a luxe feel to winter weddings. Finally, no matter how close to Christmas the wedding might be, save the sequins for party season. Instead, add a touch of sparkle with subtle beading, pearl embellishments, metallic thread work, or in your choice of jewellery pieces.
What Colours & Styles Work Best for a Mother of the Bride Outfit?
- Trouser suits make a great alternative to a dress. For those with wider hips or who are blessed with height, a 1970s-inspired suit with flared legs and peaked lapels is ideal and very leg-lengthening with a pair of heels or platforms. If you prefer a slimmer silhouette, opt for a shorter, waisted jacket and cigarette pants, which work with both flat shoes and high heels. Pair with a smart top or blouse beneath, rather than a business-like button-through shirt. A lace-trimmed camisole is a great option as you can keep your jacket on right through the day and expose a hint of skin come dinnertime.
- Don’t dismiss sheer fabrics. One of the biggest evening wear trends right now is the sheer cape. This is a genius cover-up idea for those who don’t want to feel too layered: it showcases just a peek of skin while diffusing everything beneath nicely. It can add instant confidence to those who would normally avoid anything body-con: because these capes are made from featherweight organza and chiffon, you can underpin yours with a slinky slip and never take it off.
- Steer clear of white – and possibly black. As a mother of the bride or the groom, you should always avoid white and ivory unless the dress code specifically calls for it. Black can work but generally only if the couple are embracing a black-tie dress code or monochrome palette. If you tend to wear a lot of black, accent it with metallics, like a gold clutch. Or how about a shot of chic navy to coax you away from your black ‘security blanket’?
- Consult with the couple. When it comes to selecting the colour for your outfit, your fate is in your daughter’s and her partner’s hands. Ask whether they want you to coordinate and complement their chosen colour scheme or whether you need to stay outside of this shade altogether.
What Hats & Fascinators Suit a Mother of the Bride Outfit?
Firstly, don’t feel pressured to wear a hat. If you don’t want to wear a hat but do want to wear something, there are plenty of alternatives, including mother of the bride fascinators, simple silk flowers or vintage hairpins, all of which look equally stunning and can be worn comfortably all day.
These tips will ensure your hair accessories attract attention for all the right reasons:
- Be guided by the formality of the occasion. Much like the rest of your outfit, let the venue and style of the wedding be your guide. Hats work especially well for formal, church, and registry office weddings.
- Consider proportions. If you’re petite, a big-brimmed style may swamp you.
- Be in it for the long haul. Traditionally, a mother of the bride doesn’t remove her hat until the wedding reception, once the meal and speeches are over and the party starts.
- Don’t leave your hair until the morning of the wedding. Think of your hat or fascinator as two parts of the same style statement!
What Shoes, Bags & Accessories Complete a Mother of the Bride Outfit?
Your accessories are the place where you can add a bit of fun and personality without killing the overall look. It’s also a great way to tie in with the colour scheme or feel of the wedding and even bring a bit of sparkle…
- Prioritise comfort. When it comes to your mother of the bride shoes, you’ll want to consider everything from the setting (stilettos and grass are not the best of friends) to the number of steps you’ll be doing and the length of time you’ll be wearing them, particularly if your feet tend to expand by the end of a long day. Embellished flats with the right outfit can look equally as stylish as a pair of heels, while wide-fit and block-heel mother of the bride shoes are also great options. Most importantly, go for something you can walk comfortably in.
- Choose complementary colours and tones. Do this rather than matching your accessories to your outfit – one hue can look dated. For your shoes, dark patents can bring a touch of winter glam, or pick nudes and metallics for summer chic.
- Balance your jewellery. If you’re wearing a chunky necklace, go for studded earrings. Or, if you prefer larger, more ornate earrings, go for a bare neck.
- Consider a piece that’s extra special. A stunning necklace or pair of earrings will transform an outfit and, in years to come, will be a beautiful reminder of your daughter’s day.
When Should You Buy Your Mother of the Bride Outfit?
You should start shopping for your mother of the bride outfit around 6-9 months before the big day. However, be aware that seasonal constraints could affect your search if you’re buying from the high street.
If you’re shopping for a summer wedding, spring/summer collections drop into stores around March time. If you feel this isn’t enough time for you, you’ll need to look a whole year in advance.
Savvy shoppers will get clued up on clearance timings: spring/summer collections go on sale in late August to September, while autumn/winter clearance starts around December time and will keep going for a few months afterwards.
What About the Mother of the Groom?
Traditional etiquette dictates that the mother of the groom should take her colour cues from the mother of the bride, either by asking her directly or having word sent subtly via the nearlyweds. But while it is lovely if everyone who features prominently in the photos can carefully calibrate their outfit choices to complement each other, it’s more important that they feel comfortable in what they’re wearing.
Mother of the Bride Outfits: FAQ
Can a mother of the bride wear trousers?
Yes, it is totally acceptable for a mother of the bride to wear trousers, and trouser suits make a chic and modern alternative to mother of the bride dresses. However, as always, consult the invitation’s dress code and double-check with the couple to check that they are happy with your choice.
Can a mother of the bride wear black?
Some couples are happy with wedding party members wearing black, but some aren’t, so do double-check.
It is worth asking the couple whether they want you to coordinate with and complement their chosen colour palettes or whether you need to stay outside of this shade altogether – for instance, a bride could be unhappy with the mother of the bride or groom wearing the same colour as the wedding party.
When does the mother of the bride remove her hat?
Traditionally, the mother of the bride will remove her hat after the wedding breakfast and speeches, once the formalities of the day are over and the afternoon transitions into the evening reception.
Should the mother of the bride match the mother of the groom?
The mother of the bride shouldn’t match the mother of the groom but do speak to each other about your outfits beforehand. Take fashion cues from one another so that you both make an impact by complementing – not clashing.
How much does a mother of the bride outfit typically cost?
The cost of mother of the bride outfits can vary wildly depending on the kind of outfit you go for, where it’s purchased from (high street or designer), and whether you also choose to include accessories such as a fascinator, jacket, or jewellery.
The typical cost sits somewhere between £200 and £900. If budget is an issue, you could also consider hiring a dress.
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