Hindu Wedding Ceremony Guide
Hindu wedding ceremonies are among the most vibrant, joyous, and culturally rich celebrations you’ll ever witness. Overflowing with traditions and rituals, these ceremonies are a heartfelt tribute to the union of two people in love, rooted in centuries-old customs.
The rituals draw inspiration from ancient scriptures, meaning many of the practices you’ll see today have been part of Hindu weddings for hundreds of years. Every aspect of the ceremony is steeped in symbolism, making it an essential and meaningful experience for every Hindu couple.
With such a rich history and so many intricate details, it’s natural to have questions about what goes into a Hindu wedding. For instance, how long does the ceremony last? Is there a specific date that’s best for tying the knot? Where can you hold the event? And what are some of the most cherished traditions?
Planning a Hindu wedding can feel overwhelming with so many unique elements to consider — but don’t worry, we’ve got you covered. This guide will walk you through everything you need to know, from the cost of the celebration to the step-by-step order of the big day. By the end, you’ll be fully equipped to plan the ceremony of your dreams.
What is a Hindu wedding ceremony?
A Hindu wedding ceremony is a joyous occasion when two people come together to get married, joined by their friends and family. Also known as a Vivaha or Kalyanam, a Hindu wedding ceremony can last up to three hours, but the celebrations begin several days early and can continue long after it’s done. Some Hindu weddings can last as long as five days (though usually last around three).
Hindu ceremonies are as long as they are because of the wonderful rituals and traditions that have deep and rich cultural meanings. Ceremonies can differ based on region, culture and other traditions, but every Hindu wedding you go to will generally have most of the same elements to them. The actual ceremony itself usually takes place on the final day of the celebrations.
What date should you have a Hindu wedding ceremony?
When choosing the perfect date for a Hindu wedding, you’ll probably want to turn astrological charts to find out the most auspicious dates for your big day. For example, a popular time for a wedding ceremony is after the new moon because it’s considered lucky. Similarly, you might want to look at your birth chart, as this can offer valuable insight into lucky dates.
However, you might also want to pay close attention to the day of the week. Monday, Wednesday, Thursday and Friday are auspicious days, whereas Tuesday isn’t. And because Saturday is a day for relaxing, you’ll most likely not want to get married on this day, despite it being more likely that your guests will have a day off from work.
Certain dates should also be avoided, such as Amas which comes monthly, and a day in which Hindu marriages are forbidden. Marriages also can’t take place during the 15 days of Shradh, which takes place every September, or 8 days before Holi, which is in March.
What time does a Hindu wedding ceremony take place?
There is no set time a Hindu wedding should take place, so it’s whatever works for you. That being said, Hindu wedding ceremonies can take up to three hours, so it’s recommended that they don’t start too late in the day, especially during the winter months.
Speak to your chosen priest who may offer you some guidance, such as by consulting astrology to determine the most auspicious time.
How popular are Hindu wedding ceremonies?
As you’d probably expect, Hindu wedding ceremonies are popular among the Hindu community. If neither you nor your fiance are Hindu, then you can’t have a Hindu wedding.
However, if you’re part of a mixed-faith couple, then you’re more than welcome to have a Hindu wedding ceremony.
What type of couples usually choose a Hindu wedding ceremony?
Generally, Hindu couples will choose to have a Hindu wedding ceremony. But, if just one of you is a Hindu and the other isn’t, you can still choose to have a Hindu wedding.
Are Hindu weddings expensive?
As detailed in our Ultimate Wedding Breakdown, the average cost of a wedding in Canada is approximately $30,000. This figure typically includes everything from the ceremony to the reception, all taking place over a single day for most weddings.
Hindu weddings, however, are known for their multi-day celebrations, often spanning three to five days. Because of this, they tend to be more expensive than a traditional one-day wedding. That said, the final cost ultimately depends on your budget and priorities. Even with a smaller budget, you can still plan a stunning, meaningful, and joy-filled wedding. It might mean scaling back the festivities to two days instead of three or five — but that’s perfectly okay.
Who officiates a Hindu wedding ceremony?
A Hindu wedding ceremony is officiated by a Brahmin priest, who is usually male. Before the ceremony begins, the couple meets with the priest so he can explain what will happen, why it happens and how it’s significant. He’ll also ask the couple if they have any questions and help them feel at ease.
Is a Hindu wedding legally binding?
Why is the Mangal Sutra considered a sacred symbol in Hindu weddings?
Mangal Sutra is a key moment in a Hindu wedding ceremony, in which the groom ties a necklace around his bride’s neck. As part of the overall wedding ceremony, this ceremony is called Mangalya Dharanam.
The Mangal Sutra symbolises the lifelong promise the bride and groom make to each other. Traditionally, the bride will wear it every day until her husband dies, though due to the huge sentimental value, she may not want to. It helps to protect the couple and ward off bad spirits.
Often, the Mangal Sutra is tied using three knots, which symbolise loyalty, devotion and dedication. Some couples like to have the groom tie the first knot, followed by the groom’s sisters tying the second two knots.
Where are Hindu wedding ceremonies held?
Traditionally, a Hindu wedding ceremony will take place in the bride’s hometown, in a hotel, hall or event space that’s big enough to accommodate a large number of guests. There will usually be blessings at the local temple as well.
How long are Hindu wedding ceremonies?
A Hindu wedding ceremony will generally last between 90 minutes and 3 hours, which makes it one of the longest wedding ceremonies in the world. This is because of the huge amount of traditions and rituals which are included.
However, the overall wedding celebrations will usually last much longer – often between three and five days.
What happens during the days before a Hindu wedding ceremony?
A Hindu wedding ceremony usually happens on the final day of the wedding celebrations, which is followed by an evening of celebrating with family and friends.
The days before the ceremony are filled with celebrations and events, such as Ganesh Puja (also known as Pithi or Mandap Muhuray), Grah Shanti (or Mameru) and Mehndi.
What words are exchanged at a Hindu wedding ceremony?
Hindu wedding ceremonies include many vows that are exchanged by the couple – seven, in fact. But, they’re not too dissimilar to vows exchanged at other types of wedding ceremonies.
They represent love, respect, honour and faith, and are spoken in Sanskrit.
What are the seven vows of a Hindu marriage?
1. The First Phera – Nourishment
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The first vow is a promise the bride and groom make to each other to go on a shared journey together. It expresses their appreciation to the Holy Spirit and offers thanks for the food and nourishment.
2. The Second Phera – Strength
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The second vow is a sign of respect to the bride and groom’s parents, as well as a prayer for strength and peace.
3. The Third Phera – Prosperity
Living in the law of life,
Varmangayamy Turda Dwivedi Bratiti Kanya Vrutti Tharthiya
The groom promises the bride he will follow her through life, and says a prayer to God asking for wealth and prosperity.
4. The Fourth Phera – Family
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This is the promise that the couple will uphold the responsibilities of family, which was something they weren’t burdened with before.
5. The Fifth Phera – Togetherness
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The bride asks the groom to share his time with her and help take care of the home and ask the Holy Spirit to bless them with healthy children.
6. The Sixth Phera – Health
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The bride asks her groom for respect, which is important as they stand in front of loved ones at the ceremony.
7. The Seventh Phera – Wisdom
Ancestors, mothers, always respected, always cherished,
Warmangaiyami Turda Dudhaye Bruete Wachch: Satyendra Kanya
The couples make a promise to each other to be loyal and cherish one another
What traditions are there at a Hindu wedding ceremony?
A Hindu wedding ceremony will generally include many different traditions, which couples often choose to include for cultural and symbolic reasons. Just some of these traditions include:
- The bride may wear a red sari or lengha
- Painting the bride’s hands and feet with beautiful and intricate henna patterns, which may include the groom’s name hidden someone within
- Prayers to the God Ganesha
- The baraat, which is a celebration as the groom arrives at the start of the ceremony
- Traditions dictate that the groom can’t take his bride until her father gives her away
- A fire at the centre of the mandap, which often plays a key role in the ceremony
- The bride and groom throw a rice mixture at each other
- The exchanging of floral garlands known as jai mala
What do you wear at a Hindu wedding?
The bride traditionally wears a sari or long lehenga, which may be red but adorned with fabulous designs and additional colors. She may also wear a dupatta draped over her shoulders or head.
The groom traditionally wears a sherwani, a long-sleeved outfit that is gold or brown.
Guests will often wear a sari, lehenga or suit, taking care to be modest.
What is the order at a Hindu wedding ceremony?
With so many traditions and rituals to include, a Hindu wedding ceremony often follows a similar and recognizable order. There aren’t many opportunities for personalizations, but there can be some variations from one ceremony to another.
Because a Hindu wedding ceremony isn’t legally binding in Canada, a week or so before the ceremony you and your partner, together with two witnesses, must have a legal ceremony at a registry office. After that, you’re free to have your Hindu ceremony officiated by a priest.
Below is an order you’re likely to see at a Hindu wedding ceremony.
1. The baraat
The groom’s arrival is known as the baraat. Traditionally, the groom arrives at the ceremony on the back of a white horse adorned with incredible colors. However, many modern grooms choose a different form of transport, such as a sports car, convertible or classic car.
2. The milni
Before the bride enters, the groom meets with her parents, along with friends and loved ones. He’s often given a small gift called a shagun, which is a symbol of good luck.
3. The bride enters
Side-by-side with male family members (traditionally brothers or uncles), the bride enters and walks down the aisle. In modern weddings, a bride may also want to be escorted by her father or even her mother. Once at the front, the bride joins the groom, the parents and the priest.
4. Kanyadaan
Kanyadaan is the ritual whereby the bride’s father gives away his daughter, which he does by taking her right hand and placing it in the left hand of the groom. As he does, he asks the groom to treat his daughter as his equal.
5. The jaimala exchange
Jaimala are garlands made from beautiful fresh flowers, which the bride and groom exchange to represent acceptance. As this happens, the priest recites a prayer in Sanskrit.
6. Havan
The deity Agni is summoned with the lightning of a fire, which is to get rid of dark spirits and bring eternal light and knowledge.
7. Mangal Fera
With the fire lit, the couple circles it four times, with the groom traditionally leading three times and the bride once. Every passing represents one of four life goals:
- Dharma (morality)
- Artha (prosperity)
- Kama (positive energy)
- Moksha (liberation)
As this happens, the priest chants holy mantras. Traditionally, after Mangal Fera, the bride and groom are encouraged to race to take their seats. It’s said that whoever wins the race will be the head of the new household!
8. Saptapadi
Seven steps are taken to symbolise friendship and commitment, which may also be taken around the holy fire. With every step, a vow is made, so there are seven in total. After the seventh vow, the couple is officially declared married.
9. Sindhoor and Mangal Sutra
The groom puts orange or red powder in his bride’s hair, which is known as sindhoor. The groom then gives the bride a gold necklace, which he ties around her neck with three knots. Traditionally, the bride would only remove it in the event her husband died, though many modern brides may choose not to wear it daily due to its huge sentimental value.
10. The final blessings
As the ceremony concludes, the priest and elders recite prayers and sacred readings to mark the end of the rituals. Guests then shower the couple with blessings and heartfelt congratulations. In a beautiful tradition, married women softly whisper their well-wishes into the bride’s right ear, adding a personal and meaningful touch to the celebration.
11. Talambralu
The bride and groom throw rice, turmeric and saffron over each other, known as talambralu. This ritual symbolises a long life filled with wealth and prosperity.
12. Ashirwad
The bride and groom bow to guests as they leave, with guests offering blessings while throwing rice and flowers.
How do you book a Hindu wedding ceremony?
Once you’re engaged and would like to book a Hindu wedding ceremony, speak to local Hindu priests who are familiar with local laws and understand the vision you have for your ceremony.
If you’re inviting guests who only speak English, you’ll want to make sure your chosen priest also knows English.
Speak to the priest about the ideal date for your wedding, so they can consult astrology and your birth chart to find the most auspicious date for your big day.
Who plans a Hindu wedding ceremony?
Traditionally, the bride’s parents took the lead in planning a Hindu wedding. However, these days, many couples are eager to take charge of the planning themselves, often inviting both sets of parents to join in the excitement if they wish to be involved.
To simplify the process — particularly for multi-day celebrations that involve intricate details — some couples opt to hire a wedding planner. A skilled planner can help streamline the preparations, ensuring everything runs smoothly and stress-free.
What comes after a Hindu wedding ceremony?
After the ceremony, it’s time to party, of course! At the reception, you’ll potentially have a lot of guests, which means finding a venue, caterer and other vendors who can accommodate so many people. There’ll be eating, drinking, dancing, laughing and many other celebrations throughout the night. Let your hair down – you’ll have earned it!
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